You're seeing each other for months now. By this time, you should be on the next level, but nothing seems to happen. They say, women are usually the one to become invested in a relationship. However, last time you check, she has her world. You have your own. There's nothing wrong but there is something off beam.

Read these 4 reasons why you can't get into her heart and mind.

1. She's a strong independent woman.

She thinks she can live without you. She knows her value. With all the pain she’d been through, she has now built a strong wall and live defensively. She can pay her food and bills. Her walls are too thick that most men can't destroy. When she lets you in, it’s not because she needs you. She stopped needing people a long time ago. It’s because she wants you. And that, that is the purest love of all. Jumping in and taking a risk requires being bold and being yourself. Yes. Her trust issues are at an all-time high because the pursuit of love has brought her nothing but pain. She just wants to feel nothing, and she numb herself by hiding her heart behind the wall men from the past built out of trust and disappointment.

2. She's a broken-hearted girl.

 A bad breakup cue a domino effect of emotional unavailability. Relationships are not just about sparks fly and stomach butterflies, it can sink or swim. Most of the times, it’s about drama and arguments. It’s so hard to watch someone you love deceive, lie and break you. She may have been mistreated and used. Men prey on weaknesses. When you figure out her weakness, you’ll pounce on it. Once you let someone in, you give them the power to hurt you. And they will hurt you. One way or another. Because that's what men do. That's why she's careful. She's not letting her guard down because it’s the safest route. It’s a sure-fire way to make sure the heart she spent months repairing stays intact. It’s not that she don’t want to love - she do believe in love and desperately want to receive it — she just proceed slowly and with caution because love hasn’t always been on her side. 

3. She wants to save herself for the right one.

The concept self love and knowing what she actually deserves is what she believes. A man can be loss or gain. She's tired of games. Tired of guys who only want to mess around and leave. Tired of the same shit and drama with the wrong people. So she takes her time making decisions and second guess her decisions more because she have a history of making “the wrong choice.” Having her guard up doesn't simply mean that she's shutting everyone out and refusing to get close. It is more about being selective and maybe not opening up emotionally to those guy who just used a pickup line , maybe not opening up emotionally to the biggest gossip just because she need a friend to talk to. Now, men should cut the crap out and grow up because she will love to marry. 

4. She knows YOU ARE not worth the troubles.

We’ve all seen cheaters and can’t deny that no matter how we are dedicated to him, it’s still not enough. Women aren't blind to see what's happening with men's crap, nowadays. Infidelity, abuse, and all the other painful things. More so than anything, she doesn’t want to put everything she had into someone and realize that he wasn’t even worth it. She has loved and got hurt. By now, she has realized how some of them was a waste and think about how stupid they were, which is why she is waiting for someone who is worth it. Losing touch of that happily ever after with men is so common, like that happiness can so quickly slip away, so what’s the point in trying?

So what should you do? Have patience and proceed slowly and gently. She let you in just a little bit — see how you react, see if she can trust you. If you “pass the test,” then she will let you in a little more. Little by little, she will open her heart to you. She will trust you — she want to, but let this unfolding happen on her time and under her terms. To rush her is to force her to shut down and retreat back behind her walls. Understand this: she won’t fall for your words (she's been told those same words many times before); she'll fall for your actions. Love notes are wonderful, but without the actions to back those words up, your love letters fall on deaf ears. The solution isn't always true love's kiss. Just be patient because, love does not happen overnight.